Good morning all,

Each year as a birthday draw closer, I analysed what has made me happy in the last year.

Each year as human  beings we make promises to ourselves of what we will change, like  get out of debt and lose weight and get a better job and declutter the house and get into shape and become productive with our lives

But do those things, actually bring us happiness. I myself  has been a victim of the above thoughts ,what I learned is that I already had all I needed for happiness, but it was buried beneath my insecurities, my discontent with my life,  I already had it, but it was all covered up.

Happiness is the uncovering of what you already have.

You have all you need for happiness, right now. You don’t need to change anything about yourself, or your life. You just need to see what’s already there.

Changing Your Life

Most of us  think that being happy, we need to change dramatically , so naturally we create this ideal world that we believe will make us happy

It’s all a fantasy. We all do it: we fantasize all the time about the ideal partner, the ideal kids, the ideal job, home, car, computer, clothes, travel, furniture, TV, and of course, body. If we have these ideal things, this perfect fantasy, we’ll be happy, right?

Well, no. Because first, the fantasy can’t ever come true. We can believe we’re making it come true, but the reality will never match up with the fantasy.

I have learned that striving for the fantasy didn’t ever work, that I could never get there, that even if I got close, I wouldn’t be happy. But I learned along the way that I didn’t need my old baggage, and that everything I needed for happiness was already in my possession.

What You Need for Happiness

So what does make you happy? What do you need for happiness?

You can strive for happiness in external things all you like: house, job, car, a loving partner, food, drugs, shopping. But these don’t make you happy, at least not for long, and when they don’t give you continual happiness then you have to keep striving for more, and your happiness is always subject to the whim of these external things and people.

You can also find happiness within. You can learn that you have some amazing things inside you, that they are beautiful if you learn to accept them for what they are — and not try to meet up with any fantasy. You can learn that life is always amazing, as it is, without the fantasies. And because the happiness is within, you aren’t subject to losing it because people aren’t in the right mood, or because of external events changing your source of happiness.

This means stripping away the fantasies, one by one. It means looking within, and learning to be OK with what you find.

It’s not an overnight process, but the amazingness is already within you. It’s all around you (and actually within and without are not different things). No fantasies needed.

Until da next Tyme!